Seven years of bliss ...

Today... we complete 'seven' years since you proposed and I said 'yes' :) ... and I am so totally in love... ever since :) :)

Measure your life...

The title for the article...“How Will You Measure Your Life?” (By Clayton M. Christensen) caught my attention... and this concept of measuring ones life appeared quite unique at the first sight... but nonetheless ...very sensible and quite engrossing...!!

Such was the power of the title that it evoked a thought process... even before I could start reading the article...!! In my personal opinion, I have always been clear about my ambitions and my goals – intermediate and distant – in my life... but I had never... ever... thought about... measuring my life...!! If at all I have to measure my life... how would I do so??  What would be the parameters to measure my life... how do I do so... and above all... why do I need to??

With so full of questions....I read the article and tried to understand the author’s perspective... and it is definitely a nice read...!! Though I am not sure if I could fully grasp and implement all that the author has to say but definitely I could appreciate his perspective...!!

About Author:

Clayton M. Christensen (cchristensen@hbs.edu) is the Robert and Jane Cizik Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.

Excerpts from the article:

“On the last day of class, I ask my students to turn those theoretical lenses on themselves, to find cogent answers to three questions: First, how can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career? Second, how can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness? Third, how can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail?”

  1. “Create a Strategy for Your Life”

 

2. “Allocate Your Resources”

 

 3. “Create a Culture”

 

4. “Avoid the “Marginal Costs” Mistake”

 

5. “Remember the Importance of Humility”

 

6. “Choose the Right Yardstick”

 
“This is my final recommendation: Think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success.”

We always have choices... always...

We all have a choice when it comes to making a decision - between right and wrong. All of us have a conscience and the conscience is continuously evaluating our options and tagging each of these options - appropriately- as ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. So at any point of time, we definitely know the correct path and it is totally in our hands whether or not we follow the dictates of our conscience.

I agree that the correct choice may not always be convenient and comfortable; more often than not the right path is also the more difficult path. I also understand that not everyone can withstand the rigors and the hardship that may come with the right decision. That we consciously make the choice is my strong belief. And this ability to make the right decision and to walk the difficult terrains sets apart the heroes from the common people and makes super-humans of the mere mortals

Nobody is BORN a hero but anyone can BECOME a hero; it is totally our choice... what we CHOOSE to become. It is for us to realize that we have the power to make the change and that we have the strength to stand the adversities.

History is abuzz with the stories of the heroes and superheroes; these people made the right choice, knowing fully well that these choices may cost them their peace, the normalcy of their lives and at times even their lives. The heroes are as human as us but that they could rise above their weaknesses and flaws differentiates these people from the masses and makes them the extra-ordinary.

It is quite inspiring the way the reel life has portrayed the power of making choices, the willpower to stand despite all difficulties and the strength of character to bear the pain but not give in. 

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Green Goblin: Spider-Man. This is why only fools are heroes - because you never know when some lunatic will come along with a sadistic choice. Let die the woman you love... or suffer the little children? Make your choice, Spider-Man, and see how a hero is rewarded!
Spider-Man: Don't do it Goblin!
Green Goblin: We are who we choose to be... now, *choose*! 

• Movie: Spider man I

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Dr. Davis: You say you can't sleep. Heart break? Bad Dreams?
Peter Parker: There is one dream where in my dream, I'm Spider-Man. But I'm loosing my powers. I'm climbing a wall but I keep falling.
Dr. Davis: Oh. So you're Spider-Man...
Peter Parker: [interrupts Dr. Davis] In my dream... Actually, it's not even my dream, it's a friend of mine's dream.
Dr. Davis: Oh. Somebody else's dream. What about this friend? Why does he climb these walls? What does he think of himself?
Peter Parker: That's the problem, he doesn't know what to think.
Dr. Davis: Kind of makes you mad not to know who you are? Your soul disappears, nothing is bad as uncertainty. Listen, maybe you're not supposed to be Spider-Man climbing those walls? That's why you keep falling. You'll always have a choice Peter.
Peter Parker: [whispers] I have a choice.

• Movie: Spider man II

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Miranda Priestly: ......I never thought I would say this, Andrea, but I really, I see a great deal of myself in you. You can see beyond what people want, and what they need and you can choose for yourself.
Andy Sachs: I don't think I'm like that. I couldn't do what you did to Nigel, Miranda. I couldn't do something like that.
Miranda Priestly: You already did. To Emily.
Andy Sachs: That's not what I... no, that was different. I didn't have a choice.
Miranda Priestly: No, no, you chose. You chose to get ahead. You want this life. Those choices are necessary.

• Movie: The Devil Wears Prada

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[Travis tells Logan that he looks like a man who’s thinking about doing something he shouldn’t.]
Travis: You know what happens to men who go looking for blood?
[Logan looks at him.]
Travis: They find it.
[The farmer pauses.]
Travis: We all have a choice, son.
Logan: Well, mine got taken.
[The farmer looks hard at Logan and tells him bluntly.]
Travis: Bulls—t.

• Movie: X-Men Origins:Wolverine

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Bruce Wayne: People are dying. What would you have me do?
Alfred Pennyworth: Endure, Master Wayne. Take it. They'll hate you for it, but that's the point of Batman, he can be the outcast. He can make the choice that no one else can make, the right choice.

• Movie: The Dark Knight

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Bond of Sisterhood...

Of late, I have been contemplating about life... the bygone and the yet-to-come...!!! Life has been, so far, quite happening... complete with ...lows and highs; success and defeats; beginnings and endings..!!

The highs have given me wings, success the horizon and beginnings the hope...!! Definitely I have also had my share of lows, defeats and ends... but thankfully God has always been looking over me...!! I am definitely blessed to have a wonderful family... which is my support system...!! But apart from the family ... I have also had some great friends... specifically my girl friends... who have stood with me through the thick and thin!!

I make friends easily... and definitely I don’t have a gender bias when I make friends... :) In fact I have lots of friends who are male... but the camaraderie that I share with my girl friends is special...!! And I thank each of them... for being there for me... and for making my life special...!!

The friendship that a girl shares with another girl is different... it is almost too hard to explain... it is a bond that cannot be replaced by anything else!! We are bound in this relationship by similar emotions, expectations, apprehensions, ambitions and dreams...!!

Men and women are very different from each other... in their communication styles, in their emotional needs and in their reactions under stress...!! It is always easier for a woman to understand another woman’s expectation in correct perspective...!! We are at the same page when we discuss love, life, ambition, expectation, anger, frustration and admiration.

It is not that we do not have fights... or that we aren’t jealous... but what I am talking about is that we speak and appreciate the same language - the language that belongs to the sisterhood - and that it is easier for a woman to connect with another women... to get the correct perspective... and to have similar emotional quotient... and that we talk at the same wavelength... of emotion... of strength... of fear... of apprehension and of character...!!