I was looking through some old cards and letters… and I came across a letter (dated 31-03-2004, 5.40 pm) that I had written to him (now my husband) after I had finished the book ‘Gone with the wind’.
I finished ‘Gone with the wind’ today and I was surprised at its relevance even in today’s society. Every Scarlett needs a Rhett Butler to make her realize what love is. We have some stupid ideas of our dream lover and we are so occupied with these that we do not let the truth enter our mind.
Nothing is ideal… neither the surroundings nor us…then how an idealistic approach to your life partner serve the purpose? You are going to spend your whole life with him. You could pretend for a while or at the maximum for a few years... but for the whole life… can you??
If you have to think before telling something to him… then what is the purpose of his being in your life… and sharing your life…!! Love is respect… Love is friendship… Love is companionship… Love is support…!! How can I respect a person when I don’t know him well? How can I be friends with him when I cannot trust him completely? How can we be companions when we cannot relate to each other? How can I be a support when I do not understand his needs?
You do not need a perfect person… but rather you need a perfect match…!! Perfect match for your thinking…, your attitude…, your ideas… and your way of living…!! A person has to be practical in selecting his or her life partner…!!
You can NEVER get a person who has only the desirable qualities… he or she will definitely have some flaws… some demerits…!! In the beginning of any relationship … when you are in the dreamland… no fault of his appears intolerable…!! But life is no dream… it is very real… and very practical…!! So one has to think proportionately whether one could actually bear the flaws of the other person or not…!! Don’t ignore the negative points because someday you will have to face these … so better face these today when you still have time… and a way out…!!
You can NEVER get a person who has only the desirable qualities… he or she will definitely have some flaws… some demerits…!! In the beginning of any relationship … when you are in the dreamland… no fault of his appears intolerable…!! But life is no dream… it is very real… and very practical…!! So one has to think proportionately whether one could actually bear the flaws of the other person or not…!! Don’t ignore the negative points because someday you will have to face these … so better face these today when you still have time… and a way out…!!
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1 comment:
how true! i completely agree with what you've written.
Husband/BF is not a life partner he is a partner is crime. He needs to know his partner and the plan in detail. ;-)
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